The Only Way Is Through
It's so common in life to try to ignore the hard things, suppress difficult emotions and focus on the positive. We're told to "cheer up" and "look on the bright side" and whilst this can work, often we need to let ourselves experience the hardships in life.
We spend so much time trying to go over, under or around difficult emotions but the truth is, the only way is through.
When we bury feelings they don't ever move on or go away, we just hold onto this emotion and it becomes stuck and heavy. It's like carrying around a backpack full of rocks, which we just start to build on top of. Build our lives, beliefs and relationships on top of unresolved issues and feelings - does this sound healthy?
I get it. I still run away from my feelings sometimes too. It's so easy to write this and say it and yet so hard to sit with yourself and let yourself feel difficult emotions but in the end, it's worse not to. If it's coming up, it needs to come up, don't stop it.
As much as it can feel easier to brush over it and carry on, this is not a long term fix. It's short term pleasure with long term pain.
What are you avoiding dealing with at the moment?
Journal. Sit in front of a mirror and talk to yourself. Do whatever works for you. Call someone you trust and ask them to listen to you talk for 10 minutes without talking or giving any comfort or advice. Let it all out and everytime you think you've said or written enough, ask yourself, what else, say more, tell me more and then keep going.
You will feel a shift and start to feel better.
It's true what they say, the only way is through.
"Commit to feeling my own pain rather than causing pain. Owning my own hurt rather than hurting others" Brene Brown