5 Ways To Find Happiness Today
Happiness is something we all want and deserve but it's one of the things that most people I see say they want more of.
I used to be someone who was always looking for the next thing to make me happy. A night out, getting drunk, doing drugs or buying something new but it never occurred to me that I actually had everything I needed right in front of me.
These are my 5 ways to feel happier today:
1. Practice Gratitude
Close your eyes right now, take 3 deep breaths and list three things you're grateful for.
This is something that has been life changing for me. I've incorporated it into my daily life and it's totally changed my perspective on so many things. I do this each night before I go to sleep, either listing them in my head or writing them down. It sounds simple but our minds often brush over the things that have gone well that day, the moments we've felt pleasure or happiness and the things we've done well and instead, fixate on the what didn't go as well or what we're worried about tomorrow. Spending time paying attention to the good, will dramatically change your outlook and mental state.
I also try and find things I'm grateful for each day in any difficult and challenging situations. This can be harder but I've also found this to be a real game changer. When you disagree with someone or they anger you, stop and think about what you're grateful for in them, it will completely change your perspective on the situation.
2. Look Inside Yourself and take responsibility for your happiness.
Stop looking externally for what is going to make you happy. It's not out there. When we are constantly looking for the next thing to make us feel good, it never works. It's only a temporary fix and will quickly pass, followed by the need for the next thing that is going to bring us back there. The truth is, there is no real happiness to be found outside of ourselves. Some of the happiest people in the world have very little and the ones with so much, feel nothing. You're 100% responsible for your own happiness.
3. Practice Self Love
If you don't love yourself, no one else can. You only accept and attract as much love as you can give yourself and ultimately, you're the only one who can give yourself all the love you need.
Again, we think to feel loved we need to look externally but this is so untrue. It's all within us and we can fill ourselves up with love and happiness at anytime.
Often when I start coaching people, this is a very alien concept to them and so I really encourage everyone to practice self love each night.
Write down 3 things you love about yourself. Forgive yourself for any judgements or negative thoughts you had that day and follow this up with a truth.
I love that I have a genuine desire to help people.
I forgive myself for buying into the belief that (or judging myself as wrong for) it matters what other people think of me, the truth is, the people who matter to me, do love and support me. The truth is, I know I'm following my dreams and I'm on the right path.
I forgive myself for buying into the belief that I have to have everything together all the time, the truth is, we're all human and I'm doing the best I can.
4. Let go of judgement
I read in one of Brene Browns books a line that really stuck with me
"We always judge in areas we are vulnerable to shame and we always pick on people to judge who are doing worse than we're doing"
If we're all honest, we only judge people in areas we feel we're likely to be judged, we're judging ourselves or we feel vulnerable.
Letting go of judgement is one of the hardest things to do for many people but it's also completely liberating.
The same goes for judgements of ourselves.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others
"Comparison is the thief of joy" Theodore Roosevelt
When you compare yourself to others, you're robbing yourself of joy. It's that simple. Whatever someone else has doesn't effect you and your life, unless you let it. The truth is, we don't know what goes on behind closed doors and no matter what you think you know of someone else's life and situation, you can't know the full picture. Let it go. Whatever you want in life, seek to create for yourself but let go of any comparison.
Now it's your turn to share. Comment or send me a message on social media to let me know how you find happiness.